The best way I've found is to simply chat for a few minutes with her and get her laughing if possible I'll always say something crazy and then when she laughs (lol) you've got her comfortable with you so thats when you bring up the subject of meeting. NOT a facebook or any other type of communication central hub It is about DATING. THAT alone puts you one up on most of the guys on here.I usually say something like: "hey would you like to meet for coffee or a drink sometime? By the 2nd email, you SHOULD have either given YOUR number for her to call, OR gotten hers so you two can TALK. you SHOULD have a date planned with a specific day, time and activity..If she's hesitant suggest meeting somewhere in public during the day that way she can feel safe.... I've chatted online with probably over 100 women and dated at least 20 or 30 of them so I've got the experience...haven't found "the one" yet but I'm not giving up. After the first email or two, you should try to get her phone number Have a brief phone conversation (no more than 20 minutes) for about 2 days (and ask her out on that 2nd day)This is a good approach. Some want to meet you sooner, others want to try to get to know you longer (through email and phone) before meeting you. I have a female friend who strongly disagree with this. I say she can say- No I am not comfortable giving you my number just yet. It's a community here in forums, not everyone is seeking to meet/date.~OT~ It has varied for me.I would be OK with that, but if she just writes me off because of that, well, she is not for me anyway. I am not asking you to meet me at midnight behind a liquor store in the dark alley.. I have waited extended periods of time to meet and I have met fairly quickly. From my past experiences with internet dating, I have to agree with the rapidity of the first telephone contact and physical meeting - if you are anywhere close to one another geographically.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate. There have been a couple of good exchanges I've had with some other users, but they always seem to dwindle even though the conversation is going well. Msg1question really is: When are you comfortable in asking someone you find interesting out? Especially after they've placed themselves as available and on a dating site.9to9Adjust your time frame one try to the next. Sometimes a phone call will make or break the idea of actually meeting.........especially if he sounds like Elmer Fudd, or interupts you several times with taking other calls in between.speak for yourself, kind! I'm using a laptopand thanks for the help everyone.In some cases, the user has even deleted her account without saying anything about it. And if so, shouldn't I have a decent amount of conversation online to make them feel comfortable before asking them out? seriously, a phone call never even crossed my mind. some times I'm common to clueless sense Impossible to answer that..
I seem to run into this a lot and haven’t seen this addressed.
" You'll know right then whether or not she's into you depending on her answer... as well as the mechanics of how you two will arrive and depart from that date.
Its actually really simple and alot easier than asking in person. She says she would stop communicating with a guy if he is asking for her number after the second mail.. I could be a physco, and will call you all the time, harass you, so there is that.. Anything else is typewritten masturbation and a waste of time."-------------------*Laugh* I have to agree. There is a large number of people here, single, married, living with an SO, etc., that are here strictly to post in forums.
I mean, from the majority of your emails, you sound really boring, too.
And yet this one guy with the trivia questions was able to bring out your playful side.”The moral of the story is that you are ALWAYS responsible for how you leave a conversation. By being optimistic, playful, interested and interesting, you can almost always transform any evening into a pleasant experience.