However, before you get too swept away, it’s important to test that spark offline.
In fact, a study at the University of Florida found that you shouldn’t wait longer than 17 to 23 days before testing your spark in real life; those who stall can end up creating an idealized image of their date in their heads that reality can struggle to live up to.
Apprehension can strike down the most seasoned dater but, luckily, there are ways to beat it.
In a TED talk, social psychologist Amy Cuddy advises standing tall and open in times of stress, as such ‘power stances’ can raise levels of testosterone and cortisol, boosting confidence and quelling nerves.
While some experts still believe in waiting for men to call the shots others, like Jen Kim at Psychology Today, call for for a more nuanced approach.
Kim recommends asking for a date based on your personality, not your gender: ‘’If you are the type of person who can handle romantic rejection, then you can and should ask out whomever you want.’’ HAVE FUN. Ultimately, all the first date tips in the world are designed with this goal in mind.
However, increasingly, this seems unfair – for everyone involved!Dating should be fun, so try to keep the conversation light and upbeat with stories and questions.If you still find yourself struggling then try having some pre-prepared ice breaker questions and read up on how to be an interesting date. If the food is diabolical or the pub is awful, don’t complain. They can be nerve-wracking, exciting and, if they go well, they can be the start of something truly great.But what, exactly is it that makes a date ‘go well?