Also when do you think it's right to have this conversation, do you have a guideline? I guess I just do it from feeling, I also think to get to know the person a bit before we start talking about this.
Anyway, I've been thinking about this because I'm seeing a new guy and I really like him.
Even if you don't meet the love of your life, online dating can lead to fun interactions with exciting people.
Whether or not you believe in fate, it can certainly feel like fate when you meet the love of your life.
Bringing it up obliquely isn't , but if you are still concerned about repercussions from your IRL community, I can see why you'd do so.
Do what you need to do to feel safe, within reason.
Usually it turns into a bunch of questions about it, clearing up misconceptions about it, and then typically them saying they can't do it. in fact, he had his wife call me and she and I met first because I’d been burned by too many men telling me they were poly #perilsofonlinedating I would bring it up when I'm about to ask the person on a date.
I'd say something like, "Hey I like you in a romantic way and want to ask you on a date, but I need to disclose first that I'm already in x relationships and I'm ethically polyamorous.
Use the webchat link above or point your IRC client at irc.and type /join #polyamory - this integrates with Orange Chat below.
If you're fundamentally not compatible from the get go it's better to know before wasting your time or theirs.
I tell people I'm nonmonogamous when I decide that I want to keep seeing them.
Well, not being out makes it a bit trickier, but I would still suggest bringing it up as soon as you decide this is someone you would be interested in and want to date.
Pre-first-date at least, so that they have all the necessary info to make good choices for themselves.