If your main photo falls under this category, your making it harder for yourself. We all know a picture can be deceiving, so the more you include, the more confident I am that I know what you look like.Plus more pictures usually give me a better feeling for your personality. Put some effort into it If it’s obvious you put little to no effort into your profile, you’re unlikely to get a response.Getting many messages and only having the resources to respond to a select few, forces me into becoming very selective.I don’t necessarily like it, or think it’s a perfect system, but I haven’t figured out a better approach. The quantity of prospective dates online is simultaneously the biggest advantage and disadvantage to online dating.I am much more selective of who I respond to online than I am of who I would talk to in the real world, solely due to the sheer volume.But how do I tell if I'm doing better than the other guy.What are some signs that I can tell if I'm doing bad or good.
Chances are that there is a guy on the site with a comparable profile as yours, but with pictures that actually allow me to see what he looks like.If I go out to a bar maybe one or two guys will approach me to strike up a conversation, which I’ll almost always engage in (unless they attempt some a-hole opener) because I’m a decent human being and open to engaging with other decent human beings. When I first started I wanted to respond to each person (unless they attempt some a-hole opener) because I’m a decent human being, and it seems decent to respond to another human being that reached out to you.Unfortunately it quickly became apparent that the logistics of this simply did not work out.This 2% are the one’s that seem the highest quality/most attractive/most compatible from their profile.Admittedly, that doesn’t mean they ARE the highest quality/most attractive/most compatible, but alas I can only do the best with the information available.